The internal struggle!

A vary hard thing to talk is morals and ethics. Were they come from and how life is a consistent struggle between our Morals,ethics and emotion. It is a never ending internal story of order and chaos .

Let me first start by telling you a fable as a example of what this is about and the purpose will come after.

In a far away place two parents mother and father had two children. One daughter and one son. The mother was a bartender and the father was on social assistance. The kids were in school . 

"The first part has probably become evident that there is more chaos then order here." 

In the home the mother was always screaming at the father telling him that change is needed and to stop his self destructive behaviors using words like "Your a fucking joke as a father and a drunk" . The father was always drinking liquor. There was physical abuse and physiological abuse to the mother and both of the children by both parents. 

"A vary complex issue because if no one has the knowledge to analyze themselves then the chaos continues which in this case it did . Also lack of intelligence and reasoning was another factor and results in lack of understanding." . "Violent acts against each other based on irrational emotions causes harm in so many ways to all parties involved."

The mother counting to enable the behaviour of the father by using verbal altercations and allowing the children to be subject to harm was the enabling factor which continued the chaotic behaviour in the home . The father was struggling with some unresolved resentment towards his parents who were abusive towards him and took that out on every one else . He failed to consider any outcome were he could possibly articulate his emotions to his wife and thus led to something else. They never went to find help . Never spoke about their real issues they were both struggling with and thus resentment between the two became so unbelievably unbearable the relationship was strained beyond repair. 

The daughter was a high school student at this time just in grade 8 . Already dealing with the pain and suffering of a abusive home looking for a means to fix it without having the knowledge or experience to do so at a young age . She felt hopeless. She got involved with drugs ,sex and was heavily ostracized at school every day as a slut or a whore . She felt helpless to do anything and saught escape. She was then raped by someone much older then her and had a child with that man . Note she was 14 yrs old and he was 19 . They forced themselves to be together until it was unbearable.  She then left him at the age of 16 and then had another kid with someone else.

The son was also in high school and a A student heavy into technology and online relationships. He strives to deal with his home life as well trying to find answers where for him it is a internal struggle that haunts him every day . He was seeking a means to change things at home for his mother and his sister. He went looking for a mother figure to replace the one he has in forms of a girlfriend online and at one point in reality. When he failed at his relationship due to the fact that what he was doing was trying to reconcile his feelings between him and his mother and did not work he tried killing himself over and over . Someone close to him said this one night "Don't take the cowards way out . That is the easy way out of this . What about your sister? Your parents who love you ? Your friends and others ? . The person you are harming is not just yourself but the people who care about you. Why not strive for a future for your sister and yourself and set the example?."  The realization of pain and suffering he would have caused others dawned on him deeply and realized what he was about to do was wrong. He then moved away from the chaos sfter he graduated high school and married a woman and had kids of his own . Started his own business. 

Now I want to say two things . This is a true story of a good friend and his family that I think of to this day . The father got arrested for assult but never changed and then had a court order against him by the mother. The kids hold undieing resentment towards their parents due to the amount of abuse they sufferd growing up and will more then likely show as such in some form dealing with everyday situations.

Now to the topic at hand about morals and ethics and were dose it come from. We all learn things from our parents and from our peers . It is apparent in many forms that we get it because our parents lack of common upbringing related to tyraney that they sufferd as a child in which case depending on personality traits could go either way or it is historically done through religious moral upbringing. I am not talking one religion over another. A person can make their own personal judgment on which religion is moral or emoral. If you travel back to the beginning of your lineage you will see a tragic and deeply imbedded cycle of order and chaos. You can not have one without the other . Our Morals, Ethics and emotion derives from our understanding of ourselves and our history as shown above. If you do not have the intelligence to figure out how to articulate you inner struggle then you can't process the thought into reason and thus chaos. If you can articulate your thoughts into reason then it becomes a struggle between the inner good and evil which will never end . This is why life is suffering and death at the end . 

Anyway I know this went deep . I tell this story in the hopes that if others out there are struggling with life's troubles that they may understand that if someone saught help via a conciler or phycological help in the family mentioned above perhaps they would have been able to stop the dysfunction and be able to struggle together and articulate their feelings respectfully together and none of this would have happened. Even if it was a means of talking to a pastor or someone they trust. My message is this . Don't let your pride blind you or your arrogance deceive you . Find help if you need it . 

This is why emoral people due tragic things !!!